Don’t Waste Your Sorrows

Don't Waste Your SorrowsHere are some quotes from one of my favorite books “Don’t Waste Your Sorrows” by Paul Billheimer. This is a theology of suffering that every believer should read.

Not understanding God’s benevolent purpose, when sorrow and suffering come—whether as the result of conflict over moral choices, of pain and physical illness, or of disappointing circumstances—it is easy to fall into a spirit of resentment and self-pity which produces frustration and depression. When this occurs, one is defeated in his spiritual life, and character deteriorates. He has wasted his sorrow. What God permitted in order to wean him from self-love and self-worship, and therefore for his spiritual growth, has resulted in loss.

There is no way that Christlike character can be formed in man without suffering because he cannot be decentralized otherwise. If he will not suffer, if he determines to evade it, if he refuses to allow the life of nature and of self to go to the cross, to that extent he will remain hard, self-centered, unbroken, and therefore unChristlike.

In order to grow in character, it is necessary to understand that nothing that God permits to come to His child, whether “good” or “ill,” is accidental or without design. Everything is intended to drive him out of himself into God.

God cannot train one without mystifying him, without baffling him. Evidently God has objectives in us which cannot be achieved apart from frustration and bewildering pain.

Review by Dennis Bradley

and life comes back

and life comes backThe saga of death takes a toll on any relationship. No matter how firm a foundation you stand on, together, when one fades from life, the other must go on living.

The story that unfolds when one young mother becomes a widow three days before Christmas will scar your heart forever. You’ll laugh, you’ll cry, you’ll die a little and then life comes back… slowly.

Ever so slowly the panic attacks will subside and each day, every single 24 hour period that passes, you’ll realize… it’s only a day. Life will come back and you’ll be complete. Not that you won’t always have a hole in your heart, a space where love leaks out, or a tiny spot that always and forever aches for that one person who is no longer part of your life, you will. But life, the living moment of existence sparked with joy that once held you captive will come back and the moment will surprise you. It will delight you. It will overcome you and you will know that your bright light is shining again…

So the story goes –

A young widow, madly in love with her husband, holds him in her arms as he takes his dying breath. This moment captures her, yet she fights her way to freedom, unapologetic asking questions, questioning God, and struggling to reclaim the portion of herself that commands each breath of life to be taken, even through the pain of losing the love of her life. She tells her story of reclaiming life in fresh, revealing quips and stories that allow the reader inside the secret world of pain, agony and desperation that she feels and shares best in her story.

From a parenting moment shared with her husband to the delicate story of his death and those moments after when she struggled back from the edge, the emotional pilgrimage in these pages will captivate your heart, bring tears to your eyes and encourage you to go one step further and care with all that is inside you. A non-fiction, reality brings you in so close you can taste the tears…

Be sure to grab your copy of “and life comes back” by pre-order – HERE.

Tricia Lott Williford shares her heart almost daily on her blog.

Tricia Lott Williford

As a writer she will stir your heart, remind you that the words you put on paper are more than just words on paper, they are your words, written from the heart, shared from the soul and revealed before the world, open to hurt, pleasure and greatest pain… As a reader she will open your heart and fill you up with words your soul must hear.

Click the the link and go visit her blog for more of her story – you’ll be glad you did.